To be effective is to be methodical in your approach. Take a deep breath, trust in yourself, and believe in the intention of your asks, then follow these steps:
FAST First Action Steps to Take:
- Write down three things you want from people right now but haven’t been asking for. They can include things as small as a sale from a new customer or as large as a raise from your boss or more attention from your husband.
- Let go of any fears, embarrassment, or shame you have about asking for things.
- Set yourself up with opportunities, in person or via a phone or video call, to ask these three things of people. You can do this. Remember, a “no” is better than not asking for what you want.
- Dream up something big that that you want from someone even if you think he’ll never say yes to the idea. Ask for it. What’s the worst that could happen?